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Do you want to know how to survive life as an Army spouse? Are you interested in finding out what life was like for Army wives a hundred years ago? If so, we have compiled the following list just for you. The books and articles cited here represent some of the many guides to military living and military etiquette, as well as a selection of military family histories and memoirs.


Final Salute: A Story of Unfinished Lives
By: Jim Sheeler

Pulitzer Prize winning journalist Jim Sheeler spent a year with Major Steve Beck of the Marine Corps. Major Beck had the difficult duty of casualty notification. The book takes a deeper look into the lives of the fallen Marines and the tradition they honored with their service. The book was published by Penguin Press HC and is available on

Help! I’m a Military Spouse – I Get a Life Too!
By: Kathie Hightower & Holly Scherer

The second edition of Kathie Hightower and Holly Scherer’s Help! I’m a Military Spouse – I Get a Life Too has just been published, with support from AUSA Family Programs. The book offers military spouses an informative, practical and inspiring guide to military life with topics on health and wellness, finding support and resources, pursuing a career, and how to make the most of being married to the military. As well as drawing on their own experiences as military spouses, the authors draw on the experiences and collective wisdom of the many military spouses who have attended their workshops. To learn more about the authors and their book please visit

The 6 Most Important Decisions You'll Ever Make
By: Sean Covey

In The 6 Most Important Decisions You'll Ever Make, Sean Covey, gives teens the strong advice they need to make informed and wise decisions.Using real stories from teens around the world, Sean shows teens how to succeed in school, make good friends, get along with parents, wisely handle dating and sex issues, avoid or overcome addictions, build self-esteem, and much more. Jam-packed with original cartoons, inspiring quotes, and fun quizzes, this innovative book will help teens not only survive but thrive during their teen years and beyond.

Finding My Way: A Teen’s Guide to Living with a Parent Who Has Experienced Trauma
By: Michelle D. Sherman, Ph.D. and DeAnne M. Sherman

A unique, three-part book that honestly and gently addresses key issues in dealing with a parent who has experienced trauma. An important resource for anyone working with teens, this interactive book includes clear information and opportunities for self-expression.

Your Soldier, Your Army: A Parent's Guide
By Vicki Cody, wife of GEN Richard Cody, Vice Chief of Staff.
Mrs. Cody turns her own 30-year experience as the wife and mother of Soldiers into advice and consolation for other parents with deploying children. Mrs. Cody covers the whole gamut of deployments, from the preparation through the endurance to the homecoming, and includes a personal view into Army life and an explanation of Army terminology.

The Grown-Up's Guide to The Hero In My Pocket
By: Mariene Lee
Published By: Early Light Press, LLC
The Hero in My Pocket is an interactive book for children affected by the death of a loved one who served in the United States Armed Forces.

The 2-Second Commute
By: Christine Durst and Michael Haaren
Published by Career Press
The first mainstream book for Virtual Assistants that shows step-by-step the how-to's and that takes you through the start-up and growth process of becoming an entreprenuer, and establishing a home-based virtual business.

From a Pebble to a Rock
Patty A. Correa
Published By: Xulon Press
Military wives telling their true-life, heartwarming stories of love, weakness, and strength during times of separation

Medals Above My Heart
Brenda Pace and Carol McGlothlin
Published By: Broadman & Holman Publishers
A book about the rewards of being a military wife

The Treasure of Staying Connected for Military Couples
Janel Lange
Published by: Serviam Publishing
Written to help military couples to go beyond merely surviving deployments to truly nurturing their relationship.

Heroes at Home
Ellie Kay
Published Bethany House
A number of different inspirational stories written with the perfect combination of humor and experience.

The Army Wife Handbook
By Ann Crossley and Carol A. Keller
2d edition, published by ABI Press, 1996
A guide to Army life including general information on interpersonal skills as well as military etiquette and protocol, living overseas and community living.

Jobs and the Military Spouse
By Janet I. Farley
Published By Impact Publications, 1997
Although most military spouses now work outside the home, finding a job when you are constantly on the move is still a challenge. This guide to job hunting for military spouses provides resume and interview tips, creative career ideas for military spouses and a directory of resources.

Pass It On: Living and Leaving the Military Lifestyle, II
By Kathleen P. O'Beirne
Published by Lifescape Enterprises, 1995
An Army Daughter and Navy Wife provide tips on mobilization, deployment and relocation, military spouses' lifestyle, military children and retirement.

Today's Military Wife: Meeting the Challenges of Service Life
By Lydia Sloan Cline
4th edition, published by Stackpole Books, 1998
For spouses of active duty and reserve personnel, this comprehensive guide covers topics important to all service families: health care and other benefits, socials and protocols, managing one's own career, financial affairs, housing, moving, orders overseas, separations, and leaving the service.

The Parent's Guide to Business Travel: Words of Advice and Wisdom While You're Away
By Charlie Hudson
Published 2003
Charlie Hudson, a retired Army officer and Army wife, has written this guide to help parents of children dealing with separation. The book is weighted towards military families and is divided into two parts: Part I is the how-to section which deals with children from infancy to empty-nest and Part II is a resource guide. Hudson provides infomation on service family websites as well as some civilian ones. Information about the author and her works is available from the website

When Duty Calls: A Guide to Equip Active Duty, Guard, and Reserve Personnel and their Loved Ones for Military Separations
By Carol Vandesteeg
Published by Winepress Publishing, 2001
A great resource for military families facing service-connected separations, both remote/unaccompanied tours and short-notice deployments.


Books to help military children understand military life and to help them cope with deployement and reunion.

My Mommy Wears Combat Boots
By Sharon G. McBride
Published by

Written by a Soldier and mother, this book is intended to help children who are separated from their mother by deployment. The book is aimed at preschool children.
We Serve Too
Kathleen Edick and Paula Johnson
Published by
Wee The People Publishing

This touching book deals honestly with deployment from a young child's point of view, linking daily activities of parent and child, while honoring a child's own sacrifice and service to country. Each book comes with a dog tag and a pull out activity sheet with ideas to keep families connected.
That's My Hope
By Lil Ingram and Marlene Lee & illustrated by Karen Despot
Published by
Early Light Press

That's My Hope is written for children ages 5 to 12 years to help children and adults discuss the challenges and changes families may experience as a result of a loved one's traumatic injury.
The Adventures of Brisky Bear and Trooper Dog
By Phil Calloway
Published by Glory Be Collectibles

When Brisky Bear goes upriver, his best friend is sad until he finds three clues that just might put a smile back on his face. Learn with Trooper Dog how to Be Kind, Be Friendly, and Be Thankful. Book includes a drama CD with songs from the story!
Thumbs up to RED, WHITE & BLUE!
By Michelle Bain
Published by
Pixie Stuff™ L.L.C.

In Thumbs Up to the Red, White & Blue!, Thumbs Up Johnnie™ and his friends take a trip through history to learn about national monuments, the Constitution and being a good citizen. Join Johnnie's friends from the Army, Air Force, Navy, Marine Corps and Coast Guard in giving our country a big "Thumbs Up."

By using the code “
AUSAFP” when ordering online at, military families can receive a 50% discount on this and other Thumbs Up Johnnie™ titles.
Daddy Got His Orders
Kathy Mitchell
Published by
T.J. Publishing Company

A book about a 5 year old that learns why his daddy must leave for a deployment
Daddy You're My Hero
Michelle Ferguson-Cohen
Published by
Little Redhaired Girl Publishing

A book designed to help kids (ages 4-8) deal with deployment of their father.
Mommy You're My Hero
Michelle Ferguson-Cohen
Published by
Little Redhaired Girl Publishing

A book designed to help kids (ages 4-8) deal with deployment of their mother.
To Keep Me SAFE!
Sarah R. Jones, M.S.
Published by
State of Growth Publishing

A young boy explains how he copes with the deployment of his friend, a soldier in the United States Army.
A Year Without Dad
Jodi Brunson
Published by: Ithaca Press

The story will give children a clear picture of how long a year is and how long the year might feel like when the parent is deployed.
The Bear Under the Stairs
By Helen Cooper
Published by:(Puffin, 1997) ISBN: 0140560947

A little boy throws food beneath the stairs of his house each day to appease the ferocious grizzly bear that he believes lives in the closet under the stairs.
Harry and the Terrible Whatzit
By Dick Gackenbach
Published by: Houghton Mifflin Company, 1984 ISBN: 0899192238

When his mother goes to the cellar and doesn't return right away, Harry goes down to search for her and confronts the terrible two-headed Whatzit.
The Kissing Hand
By Audrey Penn
Published by: Child Welfare League of America, 1993 ISBN: 0878685855

When Chester the raccoon is reluctant to go to kindergarten for the first time, his mother teaches him a secret way to carry her love with him.
There's an Alligator Under My Bed
By Mercer Mayer
Published by: E.P. Dutton, 1987 ISBN: 0803703740

The alligator under his bed makes a boy's bedtime a hazardous operation, until he lures it out of the house and into the garage.
Will I Have a Friend?
By Miriam Cohen and Lillian Hoban
Published by: Aladdin Paperbacks, 1989 ISBN: 0689713339

A little boy's anxieties on his first day at school are quickly forgotten when he makes a new friend.

A Sesame Street DVD Helping Families During Military Deployment

These free bilingual kits will help military families cope with feelings, challenges, and concerns experienced during different phases of deployment: pre-deployment, deployment and homecoming.


Deployed Fathers & Families: Deployment Guide for Enlisted Personnel
By National Fatherhood Initiative with the assistance of Parents Educating Parents, Inc.
Published by National Fatherhood InitiativeThis guide was written by military fathers and people close to the military helping make deployment easier to deal with through helpful advice, information, ideas, and resources for you and your family in preparing for the deployment.

Going Overboard: The Misadventures of a Military Wife
By Sarah Smiley
Published by Penguin Group (USA)
Sarah Smiley, raised a navy brat, wittily and poignantly writes about being a navy spouse left on base with two young children while her husband is on deployment overseas, just as the impending war in Iraq is dominating the headlines.

Surviving Deployment - A Guide for Military Families
Karen M. Pavlicin
Published by Elva Resa Publishing
A must have book for all military family members - it explains the deployment process, how to cope with separation and the reunion with your loved one.

I'm Already Home
Elaine Gray Dumler
Published by Frankly Speaking
Ideas for Predeployment, Deployment, and Post Deployment. Includes information about Family Service Centers.

While They're at War: The True Story of American Families on the Homefront
By Kristin Henderson, journalist and military spouse
Published by Houghton Mifflin
"This is a piece of often untold American history, and a must-read for those both in and out of uniform." - Senator John McCain

Love My Rifle More Than You - Young, Female and in the US Army
by Kayla Williams
Published by Orion Publishing Co.
From basic training to being deployed in Iraq, this is a gripping memoir of life in the US army written by a woman with an unforgettable voice.